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Obama’s Opposition to Marriage Amendment isn’t “News”

Cross-posted with Beyond Chron.

The SF Chronicle announced “breaking news” on their website yesterday (and front-page headline today) that Barack Obama is against Proposition 8 – California’s right-wing constitutional amendment to repeal marriage equality.  Too bad the “breaking” news was a letter that Obama sent to the Alice B. Toklas LGBT Democratic Club several days earlier, and was publicly read at their Pride Breakfast on Sunday.  But regardless of how you define news as “breaking,” Obama has been on record opposing Prop 8 for the past six weeks – as he issued a formal statement on the day of the California Supreme Court’s decision.  The Chronicle yesterday referred to Obama’s May 15th statement as “carefully nuanced” – even though his position was quite explicit, and he even used some of the same language.  Obama has always opposed Prop 8, and his pledge to repeal the federal Defense of Marriage Act gives LGBT couples very strong reason to campaign for him in the fall.

It’s amusing for the Chronicle to treat a letter read to a crowded room of activists two days earlier in downtown San Francisco as “breaking” news.  Spain won the Euro Cup on June 29th – the same day that Obama’s letter was read.  Would SFGate.com announce Spain’s victory two days after the fact on their front page and call it “Chronicle Breaking News”?  Readers would naturally find that strange, so how is this example any different?

Obama’s position against California’s anti-gay marriage initiative – a welcome addition as activists mobilize to defeat it – isn’t “breaking news.”  In fact, it’s not even news.

Six weeks ago, when the state Supreme Court issued its powerful decision on marriage equality, Barack Obama – like most politicians – issued a statement.  While the statement included some wishy-washy language that Obama “respects” the court decision, supports civil unions and that states should make “their own decisions,” he also formally came out against California’s Proposition 8.

“On the issue of constitutional amendments,” said the May 15th statement, “Senator Obama has been on record for some time: He opposes all divisive and discriminatory constitutional amendments, state or federal.  That includes the proposed amendments in California and Florida.” (my emphasis)

Now compare it with Obama’s letter from three days ago: “As the Democratic nominee for President, I am proud to support the LGBT community in an effort to set our nation on a course that recognizes LGBT Americans with full equality under the law … And that is why I oppose the divisive and discriminatory efforts to amend the California Constitution, and similar efforts to amend the U.S. Constitution or those of other states.” (my emphasis)

Far from accusations by the right wing that Obama has “flip-flopped” on the issue (which the Chronicle quoted without criticisms), Obama opposed efforts to change California’s Constitution six weeks ago – and he opposes the amendment now.  But somehow, the Chronicle dismissed what the Obama campaign released on May 15th as a “carefully nuanced statement.”

Granted, Obama’s letter on June 29th was more forceful – and it also cited his support for axing Don’t Ask Don’t Tell and repealing the Defense of Marriage Act.  The latter is extremely important, because California same-sex couples still don’t have all the benefits of marriage until the federal government treats them equally.  But even that isn’t news: Obama supported repealing both laws back during the primaries, which made his platform more gay-friendly than Hillary Clinton.

On May 15th, Obama’s position was that marriage should be left to the states – but that he opposed any and all state constitutional amendments.  So his allegedly “nuanced” position was that marriage could be legislated as being between a man and a woman – just as long as you didn’t enshrine hate within the constitution.  Obama didn’t change that position with his letter – he just re-iterated his opposition to California’s Proposition 8, in case you didn’t hear it the first time.

After having carefully read (and re-read) Obama’s letter to the Alice B Toklas Club, the only “news” I can see is that he publicly acknowledged the same-sex couples who got married since the Supreme Court decision.  “I want to congratulate all of you who have shown your love for each other by getting married these last few weeks,” he wrote.  “I look forward to working with you in the coming months and years, and I wish you all continued success.”  That may be news – but the media completely missed the boat on why.

In All the President’s Men, which details how Washington Post reporters helped bring down Richard Nixon with Watergate, the paper’s editor dismisses a salesman trying to sell him a feature for a weather report for people who were too drunk the day before, with the line: “Send it out to the San Francisco Chronicle – they need it.”  Apparently, the Chronicle still hasn’t learned in the past 35 years that yesterday’s news is not “breaking news.”

But it wasn’t just the Chronicle that got this story wrong — even liberal blogs treated the Alice B Toklas letter as a break from Obama’s prior position.  But Barack Obama has opposed changing the California Constitution to discriminate against same-sex couples for quite a long time – which gives the LGBT community more reason to enthusiastically support his candidacy.

EDITOR’S NOTE: In his spare time and outside of regular work hours, Paul Hogarth volunteered on Obama’s field operation in San Francisco. He also ran to be an Obama delegate to the Democratic National Convention.

Thanks Progressive Movement!

A lot of people are talking today about Sen. Obama’s stance against Prop. 8; it’s a recommended diary on Daily Kos.  We had this on Calitics two days ago and nobody noticed.  The Sacramento Bee reports on it and suddenly it’s on everybody’s lips.

I don’t begrudge the Bee writing about the issue; it’s newsworthy, and the result of a letter read to the Alice B. Toklas Democratic Club, not some secret.  I’m glad they picked it up.  But I’m very disturbed by the fact that progressive media is not supported to the point of being ignored, but when a dead-tree source goes with the same information it becomes a top story.  I expect that out of the traditional media, but not the blogosphere.  There is no question that Brian was the first person anywhere to report on Sen. Obama’s letter to the club.  And I can tell you that I did at least some behind-the-scenes work to promote the scoop to progressive media and blogosphere leaders.  Didn’t work.

I don’t care that the Bee didn’t report that Calitics was the first source to break this; would have been nice, but not totally necessary.  But could bloggers at least note that we had this two days before the traditional media?  If we aren’t self-reinforcing we’re never going to get anywhere.

Mayor Villaraigosa’s Good Week

I consider Antonio Villaraigosa’s term as mayor to be generally a disappointment.  Brought into office with a lot of hope and even more hype, Villaraigosa has certainly made his way around the city, the nation and the world, appearing at every event from the biggest gala to random neighborhood picnics, but he hasn’t gotten a whole lot done other than commandeering the school board.  It’s as hard to govern Los Angeles as it has California, but the energy and enthusiasm Villaraigosa has for the job seems to be an end in itself, and it certainly isn’t channeled into an agenda that can be at all considered progressive.

However, this has been a pretty good week for him.  He started by presiding over his first same-sex marriage, which may have been a political calculation but still reflects his abiding belief in equality, so I applaud it.  Then, he announced his support of a half-cent sales tax hike to fund mass transit.  Big-city mayors are obviously sensitive to transit issues, but Villaraigosa is making sure they are prioritized.  This could be a reaction to a Metro Board study that showed on-time rates to be among the worst in the nation.  The Metro Board has hired ten more supervisors in response to that, and yesterday they drafted the proposal for the sales tax increase for the November ballot as part of a 25-year plan.  If Villaraigosa, who sits on the Metro Board and appoints three other members, can make himself the poster child for expanded transit, and transform LA from a car city to a more vibrant transit culture, he will have left a positive legacy.  

Finally, Villaraigosa’s LAPD successfully fought a court challenge over its policy banning officers from “initiating contact with people for the sole purpose of learning their immigration status.”  It’s a resource question but also one about the kind of city we want to be, one that is humane and respects the dignity of our people or one like an Eastern Bloc nation constantly asking everyone for their papers and engages in ethnic profiling.  The LAPD now has the legal right to continue their policy.

The Mayor certainly has higher aspirations, and with some more weeks like this, he may actually deserve them.

California anti-gay initiative might be derailed

(This was originally posted on the Bilerico Project, America’s best LGBT blog, by Nancy Polikoff, a gay and lesbian family legal advocate for 30 years.)

The astonishing lawyers at NCLR (National Center for Lesbian Rights) are at it again.  Not only did they get us marriage in California, but they’ve come up with some very good arguments for sending the “Protect Marriage” folks back to the drawing boards…or at least the street corners.

Seems the initiative states that it “would have no fiscal effect on state or local governments.”  But the Williams Institute crunched the numbers and found that same-sex marriage will bring almost $700 million to California in the next three years… and $63 million in taxes.  So the lawyers are arguing that the signatures were gathered under a false assertion.

They have another argument too.  An initiative to amend the California constitution can’t change it too much.  That’s the law.  A revision of the constitution must go through a different process…not subject to an initiative.  So the gay groups are arguing that the rights granted by the California Supreme Court decision are so sweeping — and touch so many provisions in the constitution — that they can’t be voted on in an initiative.

Is this just one of those we-have-to-try-it-but-it-won’t-work lawsuits? No way!  These are solid legal arguments.  But meanwhile, the massive political efforts rightly continue to defeat the initiative at the polls.

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2,700 Marriage Licenses In Two Days

There’s no suggestion that all of these are for same-sex weddings; it is June and lots of people get married around this time, after all.  But already the number of licenses issued exceed a traditional week in June.  I think we can reasonably aver that at least 2,000 of these are from same-sex couples.

4,000-plus people’s lives and loving relationships have been affirmed in just a couple days.  That’s nice.

Meanwhile, Virginia is SCARED OOGABOOGA!!!  Actually, random nuts in Virginia are scared, even though their state has already passed a constitutional ban.  It’s worth remembering that, while this is a great week for California, the struggle for recognition and rights is a long way from being over.

Death Of All Marriages As We Know It Watch – Day One

In the first day A.M. (After Marriage), amazingly enough not every couple in California spontaneously divorced as a result of city clerks handing out licenses with “Party 1” and “Party 2”.  There actually are still married people out there, and now they’ve been joined by thousands of LGBT couples.  And here are some of the highlights from today:

• It seems like every couple has an accompanying news article chronicling their wedding, but I think it’s a good thing for now (though I long for the day when this is unexceptional and not a news event).  Putting a human face on what can often be an abstract discussion about legal rights seems to me to be vital.  There’s a great series of videos featuring couples in the LA area at this link.

• There are of course detractors, although most of them are staying quiet for now.  One group who isn’t is the LA Archdiocese, which posted a statement denouncing “redefining marriage, which has a unique place in God’s creation.”  Maybe this is just me, but after the events of the last decade, I don’t think the Catholic church should be making any statements about sexuality whatsoever.

• True Majority and The Human Rights Campaign are but two of the organizations delivering petitions in support of marriage equality.  I expect many more.

• In Bakersfield, where Kern County clerk Ann Barnett has halted her office from officiating all weddings, an under-the-radar recall campaign has commenced.  By the way, there’s nothing new about such actions; historian and author of “Nixonland” (which you all need to read) Rick Perlstein reminds us that this is exactly what school districts in the South did after the Brown v. the Board of Education of Topeka decision, shutting down entire school systems rather than integrating them.  They called it Massive Resistance.

Of course, the people who thought like that then-here’s an excellent article on one of them, Lester Maddox-are now looked upon as history’s losers, as monsters, as embarrassments, and have no defenders. Now, every conservative claims to have always been on the opposite side of the Lester Maddoxes of the day. The people who think like this now will look just as bad to history as Maddox did then. I try to mention this every time I speak to a conservative audience: that I pity them. They should take care to stay off the record when they oppose basic human rights, because it will eventually come back to bite them on the ass.

But ultimately, I’m not worried about them (though if I were a Christian, I’d worry for their immortal souls), because, twenty years down the road, most will successfully maintain they were for marriage equality all along. Moral relativism has its advantages.

• Finally, this is the video of the day (h/t AmericaBlog)

Same-sex Marriages Begin in West Hollywood — With Beautiful Pictures!

(Some more beautiful pictures from today. – promoted by shayera)

IMG_0155Tori and Kate Kuykendall got in line outside the West Hollywood Park auditorium late in the afternoon of June 16, just about the same time that Robin Tyler and Diane Olson were getting their marriage license at the Beverly Hills Courthouse.

The Los Angeles County Registrar awarded West Hollywood the privilege of becoming a satellite office with the right to give out marriage licenses and officiate at wedding ceremonies.

Tori, 31, from Los Angeles, and Kate, 31, from San Diego, wanted to be the first couple in line when the right became available to all lesbian and gay couples in California. They brought their 5-month old baby daughter, Zadie.  

Jay Mendes, 40, and Vantha Sao, 22, also showed up around 5:00pm, becoming the second couple in line. Becky Gutierrez, 22, from Glendale, and Joanna Serranno, 23, from Glendale showed up shortly afterwards.

The protesters – only a handful – arrived sometime this morning, trying to get media attention.

“They have a constitutional right to be stupid,” West Hollywood City Councilmember John Heilman said.  

Jeff Prang, the Mayor of West Hollywood, was overjoyed to preside over this day in history:

IMG_0167It’s hard to find the right words. It is a profoundly important day in history…It’s a very humbling moment to be here at this moment in history. Today culminates what really represents a millennium of discrimination. It’s a watershed event on a grand scale and even though the struggle is not over in America, and in California – given the ballot initiative in November [to overturn the California Supreme Court’s marriage ruling]. But this recognition of our relationships is titanic. And it’s a proud moment for all of us because West Hollywood has been the center of our movement for over a decade.

West Hollywood City Councilmember John Duran, one of a handful of openly gay and HIV-positive elected officials in the nation, said:


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This is the opening of a new chapter of gay and lesbian history. We’ve been looking at marriage as an end point – after AIDS and domestic partnerships – this is a new chapter. What happens when we have full equality in California? Where do we go from here?

Dr. Gaston Pfluegl, 46, works at the Life Sciences labs at UCLA. His soon-to-be-husband, Enrique Lopez, 40, is a Research Neuropsychologist at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center. IMG_0171

Marriage means them, Gaston said, “taking the responsibility for each other and being taken of.”  

But the thinkers were just as emotionally excited as everyone else. Their families – Gaston is from Germany and Enrique is from Mexico – very low education, immigrants in the fields, are “not only accepting but very supportive” of their relationship, Enrique said.

The WeHo City Council and L.A. County Supervisor Zev Yaroslavsky all expressed their happiness at the moment in history and talked about the need to defeat the antigay marriage ballot initiative.

Duran noted that bells would welcome the couples as they proceeded into the auditorium to complete the licensing process.

“Bells symbolize – ‘Let Freedom Ring! Let California Ring!’ A bell breaks the silence… signaling that something happened at 9:01 a.m. on June 17, 2008.”

IMG_0205Star Trek actor GeorgeTakei said, “Brad [Altman, his partner of 21 years] and I – we’re going to get married today. Isn’t that wonderful?… May equality live long and prosper.”

After cutting a ceremonial ribbon, the media followed Takei and Altman to the entrance to the auditorium and inside.

Couples – such as Yamileth, 35, and Angeles Dominguez, 36, who’ve been together for 3 years – lined up to apply for their licenses.

Lorri Jean, CEO of the L.A. Gay & Lesbian Center, and her longtime partner, Gina Calvelli, said they are getting their license today but are waiting to get married in September. “What’s the rush?” Gina said.  They were also shocked to find out how expensive a wedding can be. Their first thought was to have a big “blowout” wedding with 400 people – but when they discovered that would cost roughly $30,000, they cut the party down to 40 close friends, Lorri said.

Lorri also said that “there’s something different about getting married. I haven’t quite figured it out. But it feels more serious.” She said they waited to marry because “we wanted it to be real.”

IMG_0224Tanya Voss, 40, and Sue Marriott, 41, flew in from Austin, Texas, to get married with their two sons, Mason Marriott-Voss, 9, and Cade, 6, as witnesses. “We wanted to be part of this historic event,” Tanya said. The family has lived together for 6 years.

Mason said he didn’t like standing in line “waiting for their moms to get legally married certicates” but, he said, “I’m happy for them.”

IMG_0228Dan Smith, 46, and Josh Sackman, 26, drove in from Las Vegas. Dressed in immaculate tuxes, they also had the shiniest shoes. “This is an expression of our love,” Dan said. The couple has been together for a year and a half.

After they got their certificates, George Takei and Brad Altman were besieged by reporters, some doing TV “live shots.”

IMG_0237Jenny Pizer, 48, whiz Lambda Legal attorney, and Doreena Wong, 56, also an attorney,  also planned to marry today. Jenny surprised Doreena with a marriage proposal at a rally on May 15 celebrating the California Supreme Court ruling. The couple has been together almost 24 years.

Jenny said of Doreena:

I knew when I first met her that she would be important and special in my life. It’s only deepened over time….The heart of the matter is love.

This diary was by LA-based lesbian journalist Karen Ocamb, seriously one of the best in the business.

To look at hundreds more photos, visit Bilerico’s Marriage 2008 photostream.

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Words matter: husband, wife and marriage

Have you seen the videos of the gay and lesbian couples getting married?  They are just amazing and I have found myself verklept countless times. This one is my favorite from the SacBee.  In it is a middle aged lesbian couple who are just absolutely beaming as they walk out of their wedding ceremony and into the crush of media.  Ellen Pontac says while raising Shelly’s arm in the air: “I would like to introduce you to my wife Shelly Bailes”. A reporter asks: “Shelly how does that sound?” Shelly: “It sounds absolutely wonderful, because this is my wife Ellen Pontac.”

Those words arer so new and foreign to gay couples.  For so long we have tried to build “partner” into something with the same meaning as “wife” or “husband”.   Despite our best efforts, it just doesn’t have the same emotional impact.

That brings me to the word marriage, vs. civil unions.  Just watch an anti-equality spokesperson tie himself in knots in the NYT today.

Mathew D. Staver, the founder and chairman of Liberty Counsel, said the ceremonies, which began on Monday, “make a mockery of marriage.”

“Marriage has traditionally been known, across continents and all geographical regions, as between a man and a woman,” said Mr. Staver, who is 51 and married. “Marriage between the same sex may be some sort of union, but it’s certainly not marriage.”

He tries to talk about marriage, but not call it marriage.  It just doesn’t work.  That is the whole problem, in a nutshell, with trying to pass on fundamental rights under another name.  Our society does not know how to deal with it and it creates different classes of citizenship.  We don’t treat people differently here in California and that should never change.

There is more love in this world today, because hundreds of couples get the right to call another person their wife or husband.  There will be a time to fight to protect that love and those words, but for today, let’s celebrate.  Mazel Tov to all those who get to be just like everyone else today and may that always be true here in California.

A Nice Day To Be A Californian

Today at 5:01pm, Mayor Gavin Newsom will officiate a private wedding ceremony between Phyllis Lyon and Del Martin.  At 6:00, Mayor Ron Dellums will officiate marriage ceremonies in Alameda County, with Rep. (and new DNC member) Barbara Lee on hand, among others.  All over the state, couples, regardless of gender, will engage in the basic civil right of marriage.  

And all over the state, stories like this are appearing in the morning papers.

It’s 9 a.m. on a Thursday and Paul Waters and Kevin Voecks are paging through photos of cakes at the Vienna Bakery in Thousand Oaks.

“Would you want something like that?” Voecks asked, pausing briefly on one.

“Hmmm,” Waters replied.

It’s 12 days until their wedding.

Voecks, 51, pointed to another, a four-tiered cake, with icing studs running down its side. “This one reminds me of a tuxedo shirt, it’s not effeminate.”

“I think bow ties here,” Waters, 53, said. “And I like the wedding bells on it.”

“Bow ties would be awesome!” Voecks said.

His soon-to-be mother-in-law, Peggy Waters, 80, looked on as her only son and his groom finalized the order.

“Kevin’s a 10,” Peggy Waters said. “All the women Paul brought home, I never liked. This is still a dream come true.”

It’s pretty special to witness this, although my real hope is for the day when this is unexceptional.  These are our neighbors, our mail carriers, our office workers, our waitstaff, our bosses, our dogwalkers, our friends.  And they have their personal lives as do we.  And starting tonight, there are no barriers between us.

There is an enormous political battle ahead.  But today is simple and special.

Friday Odds And Ends

As we head into e-board (and await Brian’s updates), here’s a few things I’ve noticed around the Web-o-sphere:

• It’s a few days old, but I should mention that AB583, Loni Hancock’s Clean Money bill for California elections, was amended.  The latest is that it will be placed on the June 2010 ballot to enact a pilot program that would provide voluntary public financing in the 2014 Secretary of State’s race.  The original plan was to make the 2010 Governor’s race clean money, along with a selected Assembly and Senate race.  While shifting this to the lower-cost Secretary of State’s race increases chances of passage, it basically puts off any chance at clean money for another four years.  So it’s bittersweet, to me.

• This Alex Kozinski situation has gotten a lot of noise on political blogs – I even linked it up in quick hits.  Kozinski, the chief judge on the 9th Circuit Court of Appeals in San Francisco, was presumably caught with pornographic materials he stored on a public website, and now he’s offering himself up for investigation.  But the truth might be more sinister.  As Lawrence Lessig explains, Kozinski may have been the victim of a smear campaign by a lone nut who accessed material that was private but unsecure.  Worth a read.

• At the moment there are ten initiatives which have qualified for the November ballot; the latest would float $5 billion in bonds to subsidize purchases of clean-energy vehicles and research into renewables.  I’m a bit worried that such a long ballot with an what will probably be record turnout is going to bring lots and lots of low-information voters to the polls making decisions on the state’s future armed with little in the way of facts.  In other words, just another California election.

• On Tuesday, all couples in the state will be permitted to marry regardless of gender.  In anticipation, the New York Times ran an interesting article about marriage and gender relationships.  Very interesting stuff.

• Fabian Nuñez endorsed Kevin Johnson in his runoff race for Sacramento Mayor.  That race will happen in November.  No word on Johnson’s position on the allegations that refs gave the 2002 Western Conference Finals to the Lakers over the Kings, which may be a salient issue in Sac-town.